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The status of the Muslnd lofty one, and her effect is vey great in the life of every Muslim. Indeed, the Muslim woman is the initial teacher in the building of a righteous society, providing she follows the guidance from the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His Prophet sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam. Since adherence to the Qur’an and the Sunnah distances every Muslim male or female from being misguided in any matter. The misguidance that the various nations suffer from, the path of Allah the Most Perfect, the Most High, and from what His Prophets and Messengers, may Allah’s peace and prayers be upon them all, came with. The Prophet sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: “I am leaving behind two matters, you will not go astray as long as you cling to them both, the Book of Allah and my Sunnah.” [Hasan: Related by Malik in Al-Muwatta (2/899) and Al-Hakim (1/93), from Ibn ‘Abbas radhiallahu ‘anhu. It was authenticated by Al-Albani in As-Sahihah (no. 1871)]

The great importance of the Muslim woman’s role – whether as wife, sister or daughter, and thefe, sister or daughter, and the rights that are due to her and the obligations due from her have been explained in the Noble Qur’an, and further details of this have been explained in the purified Sunnah.

The secret of her importance lies in the tremendous burden and responsibility that is placed upon her, and the difficulties that she has to shoulder. In terms of responsibilities, some of which not even a man can bear. This is why from the most important obligations upon a person is to show gratitude to the mother, and kindness and good companionship with her. And in this matter, she is to be given precedence over and above the father. Allah, the Most High, says:

“And We have enjoined upon man to be dutiful and good to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness upon weakness and hardship upon hardship, and his weaning is in two years. Show gratitude and thanks to Me and to your parents. Unto Me is the final destination.” [Al-Qur’an 31:14]

Allah, the Most High, said:

“And We have enjoined upon man to be dutiful and kind to his parents. His mother bears him with hardship, and she brings him forth with hardship. And the bearing and the weaning of him is thirty months.” [Al-Qur’an 41:15]

A man came to Allah’s Messenger sallallahu ‘alayi wa sallam said: O Messenger of Allah! Who from amongst mankind warrants the best companionship from me. He replied: “Your mother.” The man asked: Then who? So he replied: “Your mother.” The man asked: Then who? So the Prophet replied again: “Your mother.” The man then asked: Then who? So he replied: “Then your father.” [Related by Al-Bukhari (no. 5971) and Muslim (7/2), from Abu Hurayrah]. So this necessitates that the mother is given three times the likes of kindness and good treatment than the father.

As regards the wife, then her effect in making the soul tranquil and serene, has been clearly shown in the noble ayah (verse), in His – the Most High‘s – saying:

“And from amongst His Signs is this: That He created for you wives from amongst yourselves, so that you may find serenity and tranquility in them, And He has put between you love and compassion. Indeed, in this are signs for those who reflect.” [Al-Qur’an 30:21]

Al-Hafidh Ibn Kathir (d. 774H) (rahimahullah) said, whilst explaining the terms mawaddah and rahmah which occur in the above verse. Al-Mawaddah means love and affection, and ar-rahmah means compassion and pity, since a man takes the hand of a woman either due to his love for her, or because of compassion and pity for her; by giving to her a child from himself … “ [Tafsir Qur’an al-‘Adhim (3/439) of Ibn Kathir]

And the unique stance that the Prophet sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam‘s wife Khadijah (radhiallahu ‘anha) took, had a huge effect in calming and reassuring Allah’s Messenger sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, when the angel Jibril (‘alayhis-salam) first came to him in the cave of Hira. The Prophet sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam returned to Khadijah with the first Revelation and with his heart trembling and beating severely, saying to her, “Cover me! Cover me!” So she covered him until his fear was over, after which he told Khadijah (radhiallahu ‘anha) everything that had happened, and said: “I fear that something may happen to me.” She said to him: “Never! By Allah! Allah will never disgrace you. You keep good ties with relations, you help the poor and the destitute, you serve your guests generouly and assist those who have been affected with calamities.” [Related by Al-Bukhari (1/22) and Muslim (1/139), from the lengthy narration of ‘A’ishah (radhiallahu ‘anha)]]

And do not forget about ‘A’ishah (radhiallahu ‘anha) and her immense contribution. Even the eminent Sahabah (Companions) used to take knowledge of Hadith from her, and many of the Sahabiyyat (female Companions) learnt the various rulings pertaining to women’s issues from her.

And I have no doubt that my mother (may Allah shower His mercy upon her) had a tremendous effect upon me, and has a great excellence over me, in encouraging me to study, and she assisted me in it. May Allah greatly increase her reward and reward her with the best of rewards for what she did for me. And there is no doubt also, that the house in which there is kindness, gentleness, love and care, with the correct Islamic tarbiyyah (education and cultivation) will greatly affect the man. So he will become, if Allah wills, successful in his affairs and in any matter whether it be seeking knowledge, trading, earning a living, etc. So it is Allah alone that I ask to grant us all success and to guide us all to that which He loves and is pleased with. And may the prayers and peace of Allah be upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his Family, his Companions and his followers.

EXIT OF THE NASFAT CHIEF MISSIONER – ALH ABDULLAH GBADE AKINBODE

Nasrul Lahi l Fatih Society (NASFAT) has announced that its Chief MissIoner Alhaji Abdullah Akinbode has voluntarily stepped down from the position of Chief Missoner of the society after 17 years of spiritual leadership.
His exit was contained in his letter sent to the leadership of NASFAT on April 27.
The Chief Missioner of Nasrul-Lahi-l Fatih Society (NASFAT), Alhaji Abdullahi Gbade Akinbode has resigned his position as the spiritual head of the society. This was contained in a release signed by the National Publicity Secretary, Alhaji Banji Busari and sent to Vanguard.
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As Salaam Alaykum Wa Rahmatullah Wa Barakaatuh

Bismillah Rahman Raheem

May the Peace and Benediction of Allah continue to be upon the noble prophet Muhammad (SAW), his household, companions and all Muslims till the Last Day.

On behalf of the President, Alhaji (Engr.) Kamil Abayomi Bolarinwa and the National Executive Council, we write to officially inform our members in branches and groups that Alhaji Abdullahi Gbade Akinbode voluntarily stepped down as the Chief Missioner of our Society with effect from Friday April 28, 2017. The notice of his disengagement was received by the Secretariat on Friday, 28th April, 2017, addressed to the General Secretary and dated 27th April 2017.

We also wish to use this opportunity to inform you that in line with the provisions of our constitution, Alhaji Maroof Abdul-Azeez Onike, the most senior member of our Mission Board, has since been appointed to act as Acting Chief Missioner for six months. During this period, the Society is expected to appoint a substantive Chief Missioner. We acknowledge the immense contributions of Alh Abdullah Akinbode to the growth and development of the Society and wish him the best in his future endeavours.

Following rumor of his intention to step down as Chief missioner in December 2016, the President, the Board of Trustees Chairman and its representatives, the Chairman, National Council of Elders; all met him at different times for confirmation and possibly to convince him against taking that path. He actually confirmed that the information was true and painfully, all their effort to convince him yields no positive result as he insisted on leaving the society.

alh abdullah akinbode nasfatWe equally involved well meaning Nigerian and Islamic scholars to intercede on our behalf. Those involved were Professor Isaq Oloyede (Secretary, Supreme Council for Islamic Affairs), Professor Bidmus , UNILAG (the Chief Imam of, and a lecturer in the department of Islamic Studies), Dr. Misbaudeen Junaid (UNILAG), Sheikh Robiu Adebayo (Baba loworo), Sheik Muideen Ajani Bello and Dr. Idiat Adebule, the Deputy Governor of Lagos State.

The President make a personal visit to Amir Muslim of Nigeria, His Eminence, Alhaji Saad Abubakar, the Sultan of Sokoto and Chairman, Supreme Council for Islamic Affairs to seek for his intervention and it is rather unfortunate that all theses effort did not produce positive result as Alhaji Abdulahi Akinbode refuse to back down on his decision to leave.

At a meeting held on 25th December, 2016 between organs of NASRULAHI-L-FATIH SOCIETY (NASFAT) and the former Chief Missionary (CM), Alhaji Abdullah Gbade Akinbode, he made following declaration and it is only its fulfilment by the society will make him rescind his decision;

The Board of Trustees, National Council of Elders, and National Executive Council as presently constituted should be dissolved and merge into a body of Hawlur-Rassul (those who surround the Prophet in the cause of Allah).

the Zones of the Society should be dissolved immediately

Both (i) and (ii) above should be merged and totally submit to the authority of the Chief Missioner.

jamahliy abdullah akinbodeAn Executive Secretary should be employed to head the Secretariat to manage the Headquarters and Zones directly as approved by the Chief Missionary

1/5 (20%) of all collections at Asalatu and other functions should be paid directly to the Chief Missionary

Alh. Kamil Abayomi Bolarinwa should serve as the first signatory to the Society account. Other signatories to be appointed by the Chief Missionary

Meetings of the ‘Hawlur-Rassul’ should be held at the instance of the Chief Missionary

The Constitution of the Society should be proscribed and the Society should be run by the Quran and the Hadith only;

The tenure and retirement age as stated in the constitution should not be applicable to him.

While we are willing to seek for amicable solution to his demand, the office of the President has written to him that the tenure issue in reference is not applicable to him. And now that he want age 70 retirements removed, we unanimously agreed to the request.

However, we find it difficult to proscribe the constitution as it is compulsory for all not-for-profit organization to register with Corporate Affairs Commission (CAC) with an approved constitution. The constitution to be submitted must also list the Trustee. The CAC registration requirement for not-for profit organization also include separation of different organs of administration. This is a requirement of the law which is beyond us. All these were explain to him but he refuse to see our plight.

After an exhaustive deliberation, it was mutually agreed at this meeting that in line with the Quran, the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) and Articles 41 and 42 of NASFAT Constitution, both parties (i.e. Alhaji Abdullah Akinbode and the Society) will subject the dispute declared by him to an Arbitration Panel for possible resolution. We mutually agreed to nominate two Muslims each to the panel, while Professor Isaq Oloyede, the Secretary General for Supreme Council for Islamic affairs will serve as the Chairman of the panel.

On April 28, 2017, the secretariat received a notice of disengagement from the Society, three days to the foundation laying ceremony of NASFAT Mosque project at Aseese Land. The notice was shocking but as a Muslim, we have to forge ahead praying for Allahs guidance in all our activities. The President and Chairman, National Executive Council (NEC) has accepted his letter in good faith.

Alhamdullah, we are happy to inform you that all the stakeholders from the Board of Trustees, Council of Elders, National Executive Council, National Mission Board, Women Management Committee, Youth Wing and the entire congregation have resolved to put the whole issue behind us and move on in our dawah and service to Allah through Nasfat.

The President is hereby directing you provide necessary leadership in your various Zones and branches throughout the period.

We pray that Almighty Allah to continue to strengthen us in our divine service to humanity through the path of Al-Islam. Allahuma Aameen.

Wajamu Rasulu Llah Laa yatashaathu

Ma’a Salaam

Sufyan ibn ‘Abdullah radiallahu ‘anhu said: “O Messenger of Allah, tell me something about Islam, which I cannot ask anyone else besides you.” He said: “Say: ‘I believe in Allah’ and then be steadfast (upon that).” [Sahih Muslim 38]

The hadith is proof that the servant is obligated, after having iman in Allah, to persevere and be steadfast upon obeying Him by performing the obligatory acts and avoiding the prohibited ones. This is achieved by following the Straight Path, which is the firm Religion without drifting away from it, to the right or to the left.

If the Muslim lives through Ramadhan and spent his days in fasting and his nights in prayer and he accustomed himself to doing acts of good, then he must continue to remain upon this obedience to Allah at all times. This is the true state of the slave, for indeed, the Lord of the months is One and He is ever watchful and witnessing over his servants at all times.

Indeed, steadfastness after Ramadhan and the rectification of one’s statements and actions are the greatest signs that one has gained benefit from the month of Ramadhan and striven in obedience. They are tokens of reception and signs of success.

Furthermore, the deeds of a servant do not come to an end with the end of a month and the beginning of another, rather they continue and extend until he reaches death. Allah says:

“And worship your Lord until the certainty (death) comes to you.” [Al-Qur’an 15:99]

If the fasting of Ramadhan comes to an end, then indeed the voluntary fasting is still prescribed throughout the entire year. If standing in prayer at night during Ramadhan comes to an end, then indeed, the entire year is a time for performing the night prayer. And if the Zakat ul-Fitr comes to an end, then there is still the Zakah that is obligatory as well as the voluntary charity that lasts the whole year. This goes the same for reciting the Qur’an and pondering over its meaning as well as every other righteous deed that is sought, for they can be done at all times. From the many bounties that Allah has bestowed upon his servants is that He has placed for them many different types of righteous acts and provided many means for doing good deeds. Therefore, the ardor and zeal of the Muslim must be constant and he must continue to remain in the service of his Lord.

It is unfortunate to find that some people perform worship by doing different types of righteous deeds during Ramadhan. They guard strictly upon their five daily prayers in the masjid, they recite the Qur’an a lot and they give in charity from their wealth. But when Ramadhan comes to an end, they grow lazy in their worship. Rather, sometimes they even abandon the obligations, both generally, such as praying in congregation, and specifically, such as praying the fajr prayer.

And they commit forbidden acts such as sleeping over the time of prayers, indulging in places of foolishness and entertainment, and mingling in parks, especially on the day of ‘Eid. Obtaining help from these evils is only through the grace of Allah. Thus, they demolish what they have constructed and destroy what they have established. This is an indication of deprivation and a sign of perdition. We ask Allah for His safeguarding and protection.

Indeed, this type of people take the example of turning in repentance and ceasing from committing evil deeds as something specific and restricted to the month of Ramadhan. And they stop doing these (good) acts when the month stops. Thus, it is as if they have abandoned sinning for the sake of Ramadhan, and not out of fear of Allah. How terrible is the state of these people, who do not know Allah, except in Ramadhan!

Truly, the success that Allah grants His servant lies in the fasting of Ramadhan. His assisting him to do that is a great favor, thus the calls for the servant to be grateful to his Lord. This understanding can be found in the statement of Allah after completing the favor of the month of fasting:

“(He wants that you) must complete the same number of days, and that you must magnify Allah (by saying Allahu Akbar) for having guided you, so that you may be grateful to Him.” [Al-Qur’an 2:185]

The one who is grateful for having fasted, will remain upon that condition and continue to perform righteous deeds. Verily, the true way of the Muslim is that of one who praises and thanks his Lord for giving him the ability to fast and make qiyam. His condition after Ramadhan is better than it was before Ramadhan. He is more receptive to obey, desiring to do good deeds and quick to enforce the obligatory acts. This is because he has gained benefit from this prominent institute of learning. It is that of one who fears for having his fast not accepted, for indeed Allah only accepts from those who fear Him. The righteous predecessors would struggle to complete and perfect their deeds, hoping afterwards, that it would be accepted and fearing that it would be rejected. From the reports of ‘Ali, “Be more concerned with having your deeds accepted than the deed itself. Did you not hear Allah say: ‘Verily Allah, only accepts those from those who fear Him. (i.e. possess taqwa).’ [Al-Qur’an 5:27]” [Lata’if al-Ma’arif, p. 246]

‘A’ishah said: “I asked the Messenger of Allah concerning the ayah: ‘And the one who are given what they are given and their hearts tremble with fear.’ Are they the ones who drink alcohol and steal?” He said: “No, O daughter of as-Siddiq. Rather, they are the ones who fast and pray and give in charity yet fear that it won’t be accepted from them. They are the ones who rush to do good deeds and they are the first to do them.” [Sahih Sunan at-Tirmidhi 3/79-80]

So be warned and again be warned of turning backward after having attained guidance of going astray after persevering. And ask Allah to provide you with duration in doing righteous deeds and continuity in performing good acts. And ask Allah that He grant you a good end, so that He may accept our Ramadhan from us.

(s) Ahadith as-Siyam – Ahkam wa Adab

1. Call her with sweet nicknames(the prophet use to call Aisha “Aish”).
2.Play with her,any halal game at all(the prophet use to race with Aisha) and Allah loves it when a husband plays with her wife.
3. Treat her kindly and offer her everything that will soften her heart towards you(its a warning from the prophet on his last sermon at arafat)
4.Buy her gifts sometimes even if is toffee(they love to be treate like a baby)
5. Never have intercourse with her without a “messenger” eg. kisses and always make sure she is satisfied(Recommended by the prophet)
6. Help her in domestic activities eg. Cooking,washing,tiding up the room,ect anytime you are available(its sunnah)
7. Honor his parents and buy them presents sometimes.
8. Appreciate the good things she has been doing for you and be thanking her for that always. Allah says; He who does not thanks people does not thanks me.
9. Let her know how much she means to you,how much you Loves her and how lucky you are to have her.
10. Be carrying her to bed sometimes like a baby.
11. Before advising her, praise her first.
12. Make yourself attractive to her always by smelling good(both mouth and body, its sunnah).

13. Chat with her sometimes when you are together.
14. Phone to tell her, “I miss U” ,”I love U” when you are at work.
15. Be doing things together with her eg. Cooking,eating,bathing janabah,reading quran,etc
muslim family16. Dont conceal her fault in the presents of others.
17. Teach her about the deen what she dont know and encourage her on matters of the deen.
18. Avoid hitting, beating or harming her(its not Islam)
19. Encourage her to be wearing Hijab(its compulsory), praying the five times salat at its fixed times and be fasting in the month of ramadan.
20. Thank Allah for the Hawa of your Life.
21. Always remember her in your duaa(prayers.
22. Be the path she will pass to JANNAH.

May Allah give all muslim men the understanding and patients they will need to take good care of their wifes. Aameen.

The acts of worship that the Muslims practice seek to achieve certain goals and benefits that Allah wants His slaves to acquire knowledge in them and to comprehend and achieve them. Among these acts of worship is fasting during the lunar month of Ramadhan, which has several goals that the Muslims must strive to achieve with his heart and by his actions. These goals are as follows:

  1. Achieving taqwa, that is, to become God-fearing. Allah said:“O you who believe! Fasting is prescribed for you, as it was prescribed for those who came before you; that you will perhaps be God-fearing.” [Al-Qur’an 2:183]

    Hence, fasting is a means to achieve taqwa. In fact, all acts of worship and tawhid are methods and means to achieve taqwa, as Allah has said:

    “O mankind, worship your Lord, Who created you and those before you, so that you may become God-fearing.” [Al-Qur’an 2:21]

  2. Acquiring the rewards of Allah. Al-Bukhari and Muslim recorded that the Prophet, upon whom be peace, said, “Allah the Exalted said, ‘All the deeds of the son of Adam are his, except for fasting, for it is Mine and I will reward for it.’ “
  3. The Prophet also said, “The one fasting has two happy moments: when he breaks his fast, and when he meets his Lord he is happy because of his fast.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

    About his saying, “When he breaks his fast he is happy,” and Imam Muslim’s addition, “Because of his breaking his fast,” Imam al-Qurtubi commented, “It means he is happy because his hunger and thirst have ended, since he is allowed to break his fast. This happiness is natural and this is apparently the desired meaning. It was also said that his being happy is because of his breaking the fast, means that he has fulfilled his fast, and as a culmination for his practicing the acts of worship. His saying, ‘And when he meets his Lord he is happy because of his fast,’ means he is happy because of the rewards for fasting and its complete awards.’ “

  4. Fasting purifies the soul and helps it acquire the habit of obeying Allah and His Messenger by defeating the desires of the heart. Fasting teaches refraining from following the desires because the soul of the one fasting becomes obedient to Allah’s commands. Also, Satan has a stronger hold over the souls that often obey their desires. When the soul abandons its desires, it will become more difficult for Satan to have a hold on the heart.
  5. Being saved from the Fire for the Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “And Allah has those whom he frees from the Fire, and this occurs every night (meaning in Ramadhan).” [At-Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah]
  6. The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “Fasting and the Qur’an will intercede on behalf of the slave. Fasting will say, ‘O Lord! I prevented him from food and obeying his desires in the morning. Therefore, accept my intercession on his behalf.’ And the Qur’an will say, ‘I rprevented him from sleeping at night. Therefore, accept my intercession on his behalf,’ and they will be accepted as intercessors.’ “ [Ahmad, al-Hakim and al-Bayhaqi]
  7. There is no doubt that fasting directs to having one’s sins forgiven and erased. The Prophet, upon whom be peace, said, “The five prayers, and from Friday to the next Friday, and Ramadhan to the next Ramadhan, are erasers for what occurs between them, as long as major sins are avoided.” [Muslim]

    Also the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said, “Whoever fasts Ramadhan with iman and ih’tisab, will have his previous sins forgiven.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

    Imam Ahmad and an-Nasa’i added the following to the above narration, “And also what will occur later on (meaning future sins, as well).”

    Fasting with iman entails fasting while believing with the heart in the obligation of fasting during Ramadhan. As for ih’tisab, it means that one anticipates the reward and his fasting is therefore only for the sake of Allah and not to imitate his people and community or for any other worldly gain.

 From The Muslim Creed (vol. 9, issue 10), Sha’ban 1422H, published by the Society of Islamic Heritage

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