Why A Man Must Always Have A Job

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WHY YOU MUST ALWAYS HAVE A JOB.

Men, don’t be deceived. One of the reasons why you are enjoying your marriage today is because you are able to provide for your family.

One of the reasons why your wife respects and submits to you is because you are able to provide for her needs.

It is not only because of love because love is sometimes fickle and can’t withstand the test of time.

When you lose your source of income and can’t secure another one, you will discover that money can be more important than love in the marriage.

When some men came to my inbox to complain on how their wives’ characters changed when they lost their jobs and when I go through the comments that followed the posts, I will just smile at most men’s comments.

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It showed that a lot of men don’t know about women.

As a womanologist, I can authoritatively tell you that most women will change their characters when their husbands lose their jobs and are unable to provide for their needs.

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When I say, most women, I meant most women with little exceptions.

There are four stages you are most likely to pass through in the hands of your woman when you lose your job;

1.Sympathetic stage
2. Annoying stage
3. Irritating stage
4. Frustrating stage.

1. When the news of you losing your job is broken out, your woman will feel pity and sympathy for you. She will remember what you have been doing in the past. She will remember how foodstuffs never lack at home, how you have been providing everything she asked for, and taking care of the family.

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If she is a working class, she will start doing all these things without a complaint, she will double her respect for you, give you emotional and moral supports All these she does because she believes that you will soon secure another job and everything will be fine. But inwardly, she has given you a time frame to secure a job and take over your responsibilities. If you are lucky to secure a job within the time frame she gave you, you will think that you have married an angel who supported you when you lost your job. But if you are not lucky, then welcome to another stage..

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2. Annoying stage;
Here, everything you do will start annoying her. At this stage, she won’t complain anything to you, but inwardly, she is burning and murmuring. She sees you using a toothpaste to brush her teeth, and she becomes annoyed on why you should press it from the middle instead of starting from the bottom. She sees you spreading your wet towel on the door, and she becomes annoyed on why you didn’t take it outside where the sun will dry it. She returns home from work and sees you watching television, she becomes annoyed on why you should wait for her to come home and prepare food instead of preparing it in her absence even though you have been at home all through the day.. This is a stage where she uses silent treatments to frustrate you. You will see her being angry without knowing why because she won’t talk and all these things you are doing is never an issue when you were working. This is a stage where she is gradually reducing her respect for you. If you are not lucky to get a job in this stage, welcome to another stage…

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3. Irritating stage; you become irritating to her. Her love has turned to hatred. At this stage, she will burst out with every little provocation, She will start comparing you with other men who lost jobs like you but have gotten another job. She will stop allowing you to touch her or have sex with her, she will totally lose her respect, her affections and interest on you, she will interrupt you while talking, walk out on you, stop doing some home chores and start denying you some privileges. If you are not lucky to get a job in this stage, then welcome to another stage..

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4. Frustrating stage; here she will frustrate you out of the marriage. It is either you pack out from her or she packs out from you.

Your home will turn into a battlefield. She doesn’t mind flirting with another man in your presence. She will see herself as a widow and sees you as a bundle of bad luck.

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No woman will tolerate a jobless husband in the long run because they are not wired to be the breadwinners of the family. Though, the range at which a woman’s transmission from one stage to the other differs .

Some can migrate from stage one to the last stage within 6 months, while some can take years, or even less than a month depends on her endurance level and the efforts you are making to secure another job. But the undebatable truth is that no woman will feed you and still submit to you in the long run.

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Can you see why you should protect your source of income by all means?

Your happiness, peace of mind, marriage success, and even long life depend on it.

If you lost a job and your dream job is not forthcoming, look for a menial job that will enable you to go out in the morning and come home in the night to retain your dignity.
Don’t be ashamed to do any legit job as long as it can put food on your table.

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