There’s a sister I know who spent most of her life in a hostel and never had the opportunity to learn some basic house chores, especially cooking. When she got married, she was upfront with her husband about her limitations. Instead of criticizing or belittling her, he did something remarkable—he enrolled her in a cooking school for six months.
During that time, her husband took charge of cooking at home and even assisted her with practical exercises to help her learn. His love and support not only boosted her confidence but also strengthened their bond, and today, she’s a great cook.
This story highlights an essential aspect of a healthy marriage: the willingness to help your spouse become the best version of themselves. When we notice a skill or area where our partner struggles, especially in ways that directly affect the home, do we react with frustration and judgment, or do we offer support and solutions?
True love isn’t about perfection—it’s about growth. When you truly love someone, you want to help them reach their full potential.
Now, let’s reflect:
As a man, can you show this level of support and patience to help your wife improve?
As a woman, are you willing to embrace learning and growth for the betterment of your marriage and home when given the right support?
How have you helped your spouse grow into a better version of themselves?
Let’s discuss and share ideas on how we can actively support our spouses to thrive, knowing that love and partnership are about building each other up.
Baytuz-Zeenah (A Place of Love and Mercy)
