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7. The feeling of utter emptiness after masturbating, compared to the feeling of joy when hugging my wife.
8. The amount of money wasted: I can honestly say that in the space of about 10 years, I blew approximately fifteen thousand pounds (R250 000) on porn and prostitutes. This money could have gone to the poor, it could have gone towards my house, it would have paid for about 10 holidays, or at least 4/5 visits to the holy city of Makkah Mukarramah.
9. The inability to do anything that would please Allah Ta’ala (such as read Qur-aan, or help a Muslim), as I always felt “what’s the point of doing a good deed, as I have committed so many disgusting sins.” 10. The utter humiliation I would feel had my wife found out, not to mention the enormous amount of pain I would cause her had she found out I was watching porn and even cheated on her’.
So, how did I stop? It’s a combination of everything really.
1. Constantly reminding myself of the 10 disadvantages outlined above (I have them stored on my organiser, and read them every day).
2. Reading Qur-aan, making dua every day and giving charity.
3. Never staying home alone if possible.
4. Performing my Salaah on time.
5. Going to my wife whenever I felt the desire.
6. Remembering how guilty, depressed and ashamed you feel after committing the sin of watching porn or masturbating.
7. A lot of you will probably agree with me that you watch porn when you are bored and have free time on hand. There is a verse in the Qur-aan about free time and how it should be used. I also recently heard a lecture in which the Imaam said that all evil comes from spare time, as this is when a human is at his most vulnerable state, you have nothing to do, nothing to pre- occupy your mind, so in order to fill this void, you commit a sin such as watching porn. The message here is always occupy your mind with something useful (read a book, visit relatives, play with your children, start a project or do anything as long as it is not haraam). Never remain idle when you have time on your hands as boredom can be your downfall, and lead you to the wrong path.