*Living harmoniously as spouses Part 2*
*Dear beloved brethren!* Know you that the capital for a marital life is love & mercy. Hence, let’s ensure that this capital is passionately preserved.
As none is perfect except Allāh, spouses are urged towards relating with each other in the best manner.
*O noble wife!* Fear Allāh and respect your husband. Strive hard towards making him happy & comfortable always. Listen to what ‘Āishah (may Allāh be pleased with her) has said perhaps you can learn a lesson therefrom: *”O you some women! If you knew the right of your husbands over you, you would clean the dust of your husbands ‘ feet with your cheeks.”*
*O responsible husband!* Fear Allāh in your wife by treating her well & with kindness. Know you that your wife has been created weak & you can not truly find pleasure and comfort from her unless you are patient with her.
*Here is a list of golden advices for responsible & caring men:*
The role of a husband over his wife is *an obligation and not an honour, a burden and not a treasure*;
No woman is free from defects. *So don’t compare your wife with other wives.* If you dislike something in her, you will definitely like some other things;
Beautify yourself for your wife as you will want her to do so for you;
Help her in home chores;
Respect her parents;
Crack useful & true jokes with her and create optimum time to sit with her for deliberation;
Join your wife to perform some voluntary acts of worship at home (Tahajjud for an instance);
Avoid suspicious thoughts and let your (Ghīrah) jealousy for your wife be moderate & balanced;
Refer to a pious and trustworthy scholar when any disagreement could not be resolved between you both;
Supplicate and turn to Allāh in humility for successful marital life. See Nabil Hāmid Al-Ma’z, _*Kaifa nasluk tariqa Al-Jannah p.162*_
Resolve any misunderstanding between you and your partner today. Remember this is the month of pardon and forgiveness;
Tell your partner that you have forgiven and forgotten his or her faults just as you will want Allāh to do same for you.
O Allāh! Forgive both our excesses and inadequacies in our marital life, O You the Merciful.
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