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Tue 5 Shawwal 1444AH 25-4-2023AD at 12:23 pm #89863
The mistake starts when you begin to accept marriage proposals from individuals that are not ready for marital relationship. As a sister, the cute brother comes to you and proposes marriage, then it’s incumbent on you to find out, ‘,are you ready for marriage?, then he goes, maybe next year, just so you know, the brother is not ready for marriage. Despite this was very obvious, our ma sha sister still agrees to play the game.
Years down the line, the brother decides to move in another direction. He abandons you for a younger lady, as at that time, you might not be attractive to him, it is either he is tired of your body or face, perhaps you have made yourself too available for him in a mere relationship.
There is no room for boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, if the brother or sister is not ready for marriage like now, then what are you doing with the relationship, remember, Nikkah is likened to Janazah.
Parents have a lot of work to do in this regard, our sons and daughters must be taught the rudiments of relationship early in life, as this will assist them to shun immorality. If you have made mistake as a parent, then it is incumbent on you to pray and work hard on your kids, at least save them from going through toxic marital relationships. You can as well advise them to go through counseling sessions before embarking on one of the most important journeys in life.
If there was anything that worked for our fore parents, the arranged marriage, the type of marital union where the bride and groom are primarily selected by individuals other than the couple themselves, particularly by family members, parents, match makers, marriage counselors etc. Then, parents were seriously involved in the process of marriage, they did not abandon the task solely to the intending partners, and at the end, they coordinated the best marital experience.
The effect of failed relationship or marriage can be measured only if we are ready to do the needful, marriage is sweet and sour depending on what you want. Ignorance is no more an excuse, when you allow someone to use your body as sexual experiment, waste your precious time and turn you to frustrated and depressed fellow, you cannot deny the fact that you played along, so it was your choice, but if you are ready to get it right, follow the process properly and be happy, and if you choose the other way, it is a choice you have made.
Always pay attention to details.
Abu Sheikh
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