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Sun 26 Jumada Al Oula 1445AH 10-12-2023AD at 4:18 pm #90658
Ijeoma Igwesi:
Do you know that your high moral standards and credible family values can make other children to pitch against your children?
One day my daughter told me that her classmates were calling her a snitch. I asked her why, and she said that some of them were misbehaving in the exam hall and she called the attention of the invigilator. After the exam they started calling her a snitch😔.
You can imagine how traumatic that could be for a JSS 1 student!
Why did she do that in the first place?
She did that because certain things, which may not matter in some other families, matter a great deal in ours. One of such things is examination malpractice.
There is zero tolerance for examination malpractice in our little family😊 . So she couldn’t contain it when she saw other students misbehaving in the exam hall.
I don’t know what is obtainable in your home or what you taught your children about examination malpractice.🤷🏼♀️
That is just one example.
If your family values forbid sexual immorality, your children will face a hard time trying to promote chastity among their peers. They will be called unsavoury names.
Do you know that in some quarters a thirteen year old girl will be considered as naive and mocked by her peers, because she is a virgin?
A teenager who doesn’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend with whom they go intimate is seen as weird or abnormal.
Voicing out their religious convictions or emphasizing their spirituality will earn your children names like: holy Michael, mother of Jesus, saint Monica, pastor, mummy G. O., etc.
If you taught your children to be decent and modest in their dressing, their friends/peers from homes where an individual’s appearance does not matter will nickname them: Titi, Okoro, Jew guy, etc.
In the words of John Mason: “If you make a mark you attract erasers”.
In whatever way you try to bring up your children to be different from the norm, they will make mark and attract erasers.
Compromise is the hiding place for cowards. I believe you are not out to raise cowards. Therefore, you must empower your children not to compromise in other to be accepted by the majority who are doing the wrong thing.
I always tell teenagers that it is better to walk alone than with a crowd moving to the wrong direction.
Empower your children to be themselves and defend their convictions, which are right, irrespective of what name(s) anybody may call them.
As you make all the efforts to avoid hurting them emotionally, don’t fail to prepare your children to face the toxicity out there.
Their whole life does not revolve around your home, and there are many toxic people projecting toxic tendencies and weird behaviours out there. Make sure your children can survive, without losing their personality or adopting defective behaviour.
I had a good talk with my daughter concerning the snitch nickname she was given, and her face was lit up with excitement and fresh confidence.
Equip your children to thrive wherever time and chance carry them to, without losing their aroma.
©️ Ijeoma Igwesi
Marriage and Family Life (Parenting) Coach.
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