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Tue 20 Jumada Al Akhira 1445AH 2-1-2024AD at 3:10 pm #90813
A previously married woman is prone to mistakes than a single sister who has never been married.
She has gone through a terrible experience from her last relationship or marriage, the situation got so bad that she’s depressed and frustrated. To get herself back on track, she was looking for someone to talk to, then she made social media her bosom friend. After divorce or lost of partner, it will take a lot discipline to be steadfast because temptation will knock.There are some monsters on the rail looking for ladies to exploit, they target previously married women because they believe they are very easy to catch on especially those ladies living alone. Her comment on one of the posts on social media suggested she was lonely, this uncultured man saw that and sent her friend request, she accepted and they got talking. The sister who was always looking for opposite sex to rest on not minding her dignity got a match.
The journey to immorality was ignited, they did unprintable things on phone, and eventually they met physically. Deceitfully, the man got her money, body and attention so cheaply, and when he was done, she was left in a more terrible situation, just like they use to say, ‘from frying pan to fire’.
Sister, that you are depressed and lonely, should not make you unwise. That you are tasty, should not make you drink poison, you met someone on social media, the next thing is to begin to say your life story, giving free sex and emotion, having sexual intercourse with a person you are not married to, is like committing suicide.
You are opening your legs to a man you met on social media, no background check or medical tests and Nikah, who does that? You can be used for rituals, infested with virus or disease or loose your life in the process, does your life really mean anything to you? Even the person that wants to take advantage of you is coming like a serious wooer with marriage proposal, that is why you must be careful.
When you have malaria, go to the hospital and see a doctor, run tests, take drugs or injection, and pray to Allah to make it shifa. You are going into the hospital for treatment, not romance.
If you’re emotionally down, see a therapist, relationship expert or marriage counselor, and pray to Allah to make it work for you positively. Your healing process and sanity are paramount to you, not romance. When you loose a relationship or marriage, embark on counseling sessions, not searching for another man to rest on.
Our sisters will abandon the process of rationality, and cling to activity of immorality. Most of the broken relationships and marriages are caused by ignorance, not destiny. There are times, some sisters will posit they need partners, they should be advised to go for counseling, or Relationship and Marriage Class first, they actually need to heal out and acquire knowledge, before remarrying.
Most of our sisters do not choose on merits, but on emotions, this is why we have many of them going through undeserved toxic marital relationships, they are good sisters with bad choices and processes.
If you do not protect your space, unrefined men will add to your existing problems, the best time to seek marriage is when you are emotionally stable because there is big difference between expectation and reality.
Always pay attention to details.
Abu Sheikh
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