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Fri 23 Jumada Al Akhira 1445AH 5-1-2024AD at 10:25 am #90834
The time you waste in a mere relationship can be used for something beneficial. You are with an intending partner for months and years without marriage, it will only show you are not a person of vision.
Our sister spent five years with a brother who is not ready for marriage. He begged the sister to give him time to hustle, and she was waiting for her love in a manner of speaking. Everyone has known her, they even call her, ‘our wife’, so she was ready to wash soakaway.
Interestingly, in a relationship, you can be proud and foolish at the same time, but assuming you are in love, but you are merely winking in the dark.
She was 20 years old when they started the illegal relationship, when she got to age 25 years old, the need to get married was evident. Our lady decided to push for marriage, but the brother wasn’t ready, so he became hostile and uninterested, after all, they have both had sex countless times, so the guy would have preferred a lady he has never touched.
The brother wanted to marry another sister, he has seen a ma sha Allah lady, she is 21 years old, young and attractive. He told the sister that waited for five years, “I am so sorry, I have prayed over it, we are not compatible”. Believe me, to disengage a relationship is not difficult, one flimsy excuse is enough. Imagine, if our sister has spent the five years in a madrasah or university to bag a degree, it will be wholesome.
If you want peace, stay away from any form of relationship with opposite sex when you are not ready for marriage. Every failed relationship or marriage leaves you with physical, psychological or emotional strain. You must strive to avoid stories that touch the hearts. It is either you approach relationship at the wrong time or marry the right person at the wrong time, none is preferable.
Once marriage proposal and acceptance have been established between a brother and sister, conduct your prayer without emotional attachment, thorough background check, medical tests and counseling sessions, and Nikah must not be delayed, just as you know, Nikah is likened to Janazah.
Always pay attention to details.
Abu Sheikh
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