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Tue 13 Jumada Al Akhira 1445AH 26-12-2023AD at 3:47 pm #90758
A child is a trust in the hands of his parents and his heart is a pure vessel that may be filled with both good and evil. Muslim parents should make their children used to good morals from the very beginning of their lifetime.
A father should inculcate good morality in his child in all’ aspects of life: in eating, drinking, clothing, speaking, and contacting with the others in general, etc. He should teach him the Qur’an, the Sunnah, and stories of the pious people, so that he can learn good morality through practical examples and learn to love and respect the people of righteousness and piety.
A father should reward and praise his child for every praiseworthy act he does. This is apt to encourage him to keep steadfast in the way of goodness. However, if the child commits some mistake, it is not necessary to punish him in the first time, but if he repeats it he may be blamed, but privately.
A child should be prevented from sleeping during the daytime because it leads to sloth and inactivity. For the same reason, he should be familiarized with exercise and action.
He should be prevented from doing certain blameworthy acts, which are widespread among ill-raised children, such as spitting and yawning in the presence of others, talkativeness, indecent words and impolite expressions, and the like. He should also be taught how to obey and respect his parents and teachers.
Sahl ibn Abdillah reported that when he was only three years old his maternal uncle, Muhammad ibn Suwar, taught him how to mention ALLĀH in his heart, by saying the following words without pronouncing them factually, “ALLĀH is with me; ALLĀH is looking at me; ALLĀH is witnessing my actions!” Sahl’s uncle told him to say these words repeatedly every day, always in the same way. Sahl said he did so and in a short time he began to feel a special kind of sweetness stimulated by the repetition of these words. From them he learned how to be conscious of ALLĀH all the time and this helped him to be a good worshiper of ALLĀH throughout his lifetime.
Whoever witnesses the Hereafter through his heart and by means of certainty, his attention becomes entirely attached to it and he pays no attention to worldly life and its pleasures. Anyone who experiences this certainty-based witnessing of the Hereafter should exert his effort to keep on straightly in his way to it. Still, this requires that he should fulfill three conditions: to abandon wrongdoing completely, to seek a well-versed scholar to be his guide in the way lest devils should distract him from it, and to adhere to privacy (in matters of worship).
This is a brief account of the method that should be applied by those who seek the Hereafter.
{Ibn Qudamah’s Mukhtasar Minhaj al-Qasidin: Page 177-178}
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