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Tue 19 Shawwal 1444AH 9-5-2023AD at 9:47 am #89888
Some men give money and items to ladies in a mere relationship to persuade them into considering the proposals, so it is a ploy. Gifting is very good, but give what you can afford. At the eatery when they met, the brother asked her to order ‘anything’, and she did.
About 30 minutes into the discussion, the sister said, ‘I am not interested’, the brother was trying to persuade her, but she insisted. Then, the brother got angry, ‘why did you allow me to spend that much when you know you will not accept my proposal, please return the money I paid for the food you ate if you do not want to embrass yourself’. Even in Freetown, there’s no free food.
We must establish the fact that sisters need to stop receiving these things when they are not wives to these men, especially when they know the purpose why the men spend, they are not being nice, they are in need of something. When a man gives and the lady collects, then he feels entitled. If the lady later rejects the proposal, whether the reasons are genuine or not, the man will be pained.
He is not a philanthropist, he targets something, what he cannot give a brother like him, he can do ten times of that same thing for you. From experience, no one among the brothers has ever offered or given the match maker a phone, but many of them have bought phones for sisters to lure or draw them closer, and later got a red card. Interestingly, I have assisted brothers to receive items including money and phones from sisters.
Funny enough, these brothers appear like there is no money with them, almost begging to be linked on the platform, you know all these brothers that can go to a radio station over 2k, looking for scriptures to back reasons why you should render free services to them, at the end of the day, they will come back to tell me they have spent a lot of money for sisters that did not accept their proposals.
Sisters, there is no point saying you want to teach a brother lesson, even if he is throwing money and items at you, learn how to say no effectively, especially when you cannot marry him. He will definitely feel cheated.
Everyone likes gift, but gets them from people with clear intentions.
Always pay attention to details.
Abu Sheikh
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