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      SEXUAL SATISFACTION: (The biggest tiring issue in Marriages):

      بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

      This short piece is intended to provide insight on the troubling and detrimental lack of understanding among legally married Muslim men & women, leading to their relationship looking bored or tiring.

      Muslim Faithful!

      I know that shyness or modesty (Haya’) is an Islamic characteristic which is strongly encouraged, and is a branch of faith as the Prophet (pbuh) pointed out in one of the authentic hadeeth

      But,

      Marriage is an act of worship and shyness should not prevent Muslims from discussing things that will help them to understand their religion properly, and fulfil obligatory duties which cannot be waived and which, if Muslims does not do them, they will be sinning thereby.

      Oh My People!

      It will be useful to mention something that happened during the time of the Prophet (PBUH). Once Asma, the daughter of Abu Bakr, came to the Prophet (PBUH) and asked him how to do ghusl (total ablution, bath). Our Prophet (PBUH) described to her how to do it. Aisha (ra), who was there on that occasion, becomes pleased that her sister comes and asks the Prophet (PBUH) a question like that and says How good are the women of Ansar (helpers) that their shyness does not prevent them from learning religion. 📚(Muslim, hadeeth: 6l)

      Furthermore,

      When they asked Imam Azam (Abu Hanifah – RA), How did you get this knowledge?, he said: “I wasnt stingy in telling others what I knew, I didnt feel shy or avoid asking others and learn.”

      Today,

      When private and sexual matters are talked about explicitly by Muslim scholars with the intention of proffering solutions to problems married couples are silently suffering from (as pastors does in their churches), our people (Muslims) take them to be shameless people. Yes. Muslims forget that “Shyness and Bashfulness” should not prevent us from learning the subjects like this.

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      Servants Of Allah!

      The purposes of marriage are, a) to preserve chastity, b) to preserve lineage, c) mutual satisfaction of physical desire, d) companionship between the two sexes.

      Now,

      If either spouse is deficient or neglects the means to fulfil the purpose of marriage, then, they have neglected the right of another person and abandoned a duty that they have taken upon themselves by marrying.

      SEXUAL SATISFACTION: (The biggest tiring issue in Marriages):

      The name I give to “good sex” in marriage is: – “problem solver or dispute settler”.

      My reasons:

      As time progresses in a long relationship, couples disagree more on things than they did before at the start of the relationship. Conflicts due to the difference of opinion become commonplace, and couples tend to drift apart. Sex then becomes an import activity to make a truce. Sexual intimacy helps couples work through their disagreements. A man can wipe off the bitterness his wife caused him if she walked into his arms wearing seducing dresses and give him good hot sex. Yes. And the situation is vice versa.

      Infact,

      As with every other aspect of our lives, Islam provides us with all the necessary information for the need for sexual lives of married man and woman. The reason for this is simple🤷🏻‍♂️; Islam recognizes the innate nature of man, and has ordained sexual relations for pleasure, and not just for procreation.

      The bitter truth is

      Nobody enjoys being in a marriage that lacks physical passion. Yes. Everybody wants to be desired. Therefore, passionate and invigorating sex is an indicator that your partner is still into you. And being great in bed and having your spouse come back to you wanting more is a great self-esteem booster for both men and women. On the other hand, performing poorly in this aspect can eventually drive your partner to look for other means outside the marriage.

      سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك نشهد ان لا اله الا انت نستغفرك ونتوابوااليك

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