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Tue 28 Jumada Al Oula 1445AH 12-12-2023AD at 5:41 pm #90664
We are Ready for Nikkah but Sisters ain’t ready to manage with us
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Lie
I repeat Lie..this statement is one of the greatest lie brothers are hiding under.The first question is with the little you have wat kind of woman are u looking for
Am ready for Nikkah but the available sisters doesn’t have understanding & can’t endure with me
says an o’level holder that wants a sister vast in Islamic Knowledge, fluent in Arobiyyah & English,Fair skinned, flawless face ati bebeloLol who told you if eventually you find such sister you will be her Taste! stop giving ur self heart 💔 go for who you can Afford.
Am not saying u shouldn’t have choices o but check ur worth before u propose.Woman wants and needs no dey finish.
The problem dis days is that most of us ascribing Salafiyyah to ourselves are only focusing on other people’s flaws, point fingers at others mistake,we don’t look into our midst to correct alot of err among us.. wallohi those we are condemning are doing very well in marriage aspect
The high rate of Tolaq among the Salafy brothers and sisters dis days is alarming
Why? Missed Placed priority and over insightness
Recently I saw a 21 years old Brother searching for a wife he is still living with his parents,he is still learning work,he wants a sister that’s vast in knowledge can read Quran fluently and speak Arobiyyah ok fine let accept it his choice but
He also wants the sister to continue living with her Parent After Aqid (to be candid,a sister that has struggled to achieve this doesn’t she deserve a better life too )Let be realistic does this make sense
You don’t have a house,you don’t ave a work yet,am not even talking about his age,but even you and I know that a man that’s far older than his age is still struggling to maintain a home talkless of a 21 year old guy dat is yet to put his life together, can he manage a home.it people like him that will Pronounce Tolaq on irrelevant issues because he isn’t Mentally Capable even if he is Financially Ok.we understand y’all are trying to stay away from Fitnah we understand u are avoiding Zina but put ur live together first before engaging a woman
everyone deserves better, don’t be selfish,don’t want good things for yourself alone,if u want better do Better, let ur urge for marriage push you to do better,Early marriage is good Looto but stop following your Facebook mentor Fatwa blindly..You don’t have a stable work,u want a niqobite, and yet u are restricting ur wife from working even online because of free mixing( the prophet wives didn’t work ) osheeeey in this our country rogbodiyon.
Alfa Hustle & get a life before marriage, stop suffering innocent sisters, stop turning sisters in their early 20’s to divorcees.This isn’t way of the Salaf practice what u preach don’t be a Salafy by Mouth or Name
I will keep on saying this
Dear brother before you set any standard for the kind of woman u want check urself and be truthful to urself that if I eventually get this kind of woman am I qualified for her standard alsoSometimes the question I keep asking is that is there no any sister dat wants to get married to all this brothers dat likes ranting on Facebook abi wats d issue
And I realized that
Wallohi the truth is there are alot of good sisters, wallohi sisters with good manhaj that are ready for marriage but those brothers ain’t picking interest in them because of their look or skin colour
Same brother that will tag Oriflame 17k as ishrof.. is looking for Oyinbo pepe
And sadly
Good Sisters with sound Manhaj are getting married to weaklings(in Deen aspect) because of they lack facial look
Brothers with sound Aqeedah are getting married to monsters because of Facial look and Skin colour..After dey are being scammed & Dumped dey will come online to start Ranting dat sister’s are evil
Alfa who do u go for in the first place ??Wat was d priority u placed higher
Manhaj or Beauty?
Until we all Agree dis matter worth looking into and we all need to tell ourselves the bitter truth about it
Until we get to understand that there is no human being has it all and marriage shouldn’t be built on image of perfection
Untill we get to understand that there isn’t harm in having choice but go for the woman you can afford.
Until we get to understand that early marriage is good but the economy of the country we found ourselves isn’t encouraging it without an average source of income
Untill then I think the rate of Tolaq among us will reduce.
Dear sister..Be you,love yourself,be real,have worth,learn a skill, learn businesses ideas, don’t allow love blind fold you so they won’t useless you,be confident in your self,don’t allow anyone intimidate or body shame you.. Carry yourself with Humor you self be person spec!
Barokallahu feekum to all responsible and struggling Brothers out there may Allah rectify your affairs and mine.
Shuaibiyyah👋
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